I choose him, for he made me see things I wouldn’t see alone. I choose him, for he makes my heart and soul smile. I choose him, for my love for him is returned, equally. I choose him, for nothing good would ever come if it wasn’t him. I choose him, for distance is just a word now, not a war. I choose him, for I commit myself to the unknown, intrepidly. I choose him, for love is magic growing inside of me. I choose him, for he’s part of my life, my smile, my dreams. I choose him, for I want him. Only him. And I choose him, for I love us.
As we get older, we definitely start noticing stuff about ourselves which we didn’t use to. We start paying more attention to things like the way we dress, the way we carry ourselves etc. We start doing things not for ourselves, but mainly on the grounds of other people’s opinion. Now when I say doing things, I don’t mean helping people. We all know how it goes. We do stuff, because we see others doing it or just because we want others to notice us.
As things and time goes by, does it really benefit us? Most of us have been so into that lifestyle that it has become part of us; a sort of habit. We all have to recognize that nothing is stronger than habits, and that habits change our character. Now don’t get me wrong I am not trying to judge any one, reason being that I was like that too and I am still struggling with it as well. All things being considered, when you look at your life through an outsiders lens, caring about people’s opinion of you is very unhealthy. I come from an environment where choosing your career, your spouse and even whether having kids or not is very much influenced by the way we think others will regard us.
So as from today, I want you to remember this the next time you have those “what would people think” kind of thoughts. Your life is YOUR OWN ship and you are the captain of this ship, so you sail it the way you want to. Don’t let people’s opinion make you feel bad, guilty or regretful for living your life. You only live once so live your life the way you want it. You have always had a dream, don’t let people talk you out of it. Go after that dream and make sure you enjoy the journey of achieving that dream.
“Wolves don’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep.”- Unknown
One thing I’ll never be able to understand is people who purposely want to hurt and destroy the happiness of others just to make themselves feel better.
If someone else is happy without you in their life and have become a better version of themselves because of it, why would you want to prevent or halt them from becoming that?
Interfering and trying to ruin other people isn’t going to make you seem more desirable or enhance your life in any way. It might make you happy because you feel you have some sort of power but it’s not going to change anything.
If you truly care about someone whether it’s on a friendship level or even just on an acquaintance level surely you wouldn’t want to make them purposefully unhappy?
I’ve spent a lot of my time trying to be the best I possibly can be and treat those the way they deserve to be treated but when someone comes in and tries to take away something that’s important to me, I will definitely not be nice or entertain it.
You shouldn’t try and force yourself back into someone’s life who doesn’t want you there any more even if it’s what you want.
Being bitter isn’t going to make your life any better.